The Do’s and Don’ts of taking on a new job

Do's and Don'ts
The Do’s and Don’ts of taking on a new job

1) Become a highly-concerned observer

2) If your mouth is open, you are not learning 

3) Challenge your assumptions

4) Listen to your peers

5) Help your boss raise their status

6) Create a business plan for every assignment

7) Direct your availability up, down, and sideways

8) Be aware of others’ feelings and goals 

9) Know the names and responsibilities of your peers

10) Ask for help and show your appreciation

11) Do not try to impress others with your past 

12) Keep to your word

13) Become part of your team first before you become a leader

14) Arrive early and stay late.

27 years ago, the CEO of American Airlines gave me this. This will stay with me forever, and I am sure with my mission to provide jobs to a million Pakistanis this will come in very handy for them. 

The Myth of Overnight Success

It’s 1:26 am and I’ve just gotten through my email and messages– over 600 per day.

Now, to re-film a presentation I gave at CEO Lawyer Summit. Believe it or not, someone ran off with the camera equipment that had the recordings.

So, I won’t be done until about 3 am– but there are deadlines to hit, and the buck stops with me.

It may look like I live the “4-hour workweek” life– if you see only the highlights on social media.

People want overnight success.

The reality is that I’ve been at this for over 30 years. When I started, I ate off the dollar menu at Mcdonald’s to save money. 

I stayed in fleabag motels because I couldn’t afford a nice conference hotel. I stuffed food in my pockets to eat later.

I borrowed money from friends to help me make payroll.

And I still don’t believe I’m “successful” as an internet, digital, or social media marketer.

Entrepreneurship looks easy until you factor in the unexpected problems that always come up.

Overnight Success
Hidden Secrets behind Overnight Success

Secrets behind Overnight Success

Yesterday, I interviewed someone who made $87 million as an “overnight success”. 

And by overnight success, we mean 8 years of credit card debt up to his eyeballs, which he paid off just last month.

Don’t be discouraged if you haven’t “made it” with overnight success as quickly as some of the people you see on the internet.

They either aren’t telling you the whole story, or you might not realize it’s taken them 10 years to get to that point.

We are all so unique that it’s important to take notes on what we need and want.

It’s also important to remember some of those people who “made it” bought their following, PR, verifications, etc. 

Never compare yourself to others getting overnight success, especially on social media, where so much of it is artificial.

So many people get discouraged and quit so early. Get good at one thing and stop it with shiny object syndrome.

You might be thinking, at what point do you consider someone “made it”? 1M per year, 10M, 100M? Being fulfilled with what they do?

It depends on the person but rarely is it monetary.

This year one of my friends marks his 16th year working. I couldn’t tell you how many years were 80-hour workweeks to get to the 5 or 6-Figure workweeks. 

If you’re not willing or able to work for what you want, then entrepreneurship isn’t for you.

The vision is larger and much more desirable than the work it takes to get there.

Also, one of my friends used to stay up 24hrs every Sunday to blast 20,000 email addresses because they couldn’t afford the few hundred dollars for a legit mailing system.

Persistence is key. Read the success stories but let them inspire you rather than define you

Keep going. Keep trying. Remember you are doing this so you can serve the people you need to serve. You might consider closing your doors many times over the years.

The best tip for struggling entrepreneurs is to think about the consequences of stopping.

People want overnight success, but what would life look like if you shut down the business and got a job?

Would you be ok?

Could you rebuild the business on the side of the job?

It’s about understanding opportunity cost. Not everybody is meant to be an entrepreneur, and that’s ok.

But many hold themselves back unnecessarily. Sometimes you lose money and lose sleep to handle that emergency, even if out of scope.

The best tip is to understand that this is your journey. Stop comparing with others, just like Tony Robbins says 

“Energy flows where attention goes”

People will remember you for your character, generosity, and integrity in the long run on this long journey of entrepreneurship, as you exemplify.

So, even if someone is struggling as an entrepreneur, I’d say just trust that the goodwill and relationships you have planted and nurtured by doing the “right” thing will come to fruition one day, and you will receive many times over what you’ve given.

This too shall pass, but the relationships will last.

Here is some wise advice;

Doing the right thing always pays off eventually– call it “karma”, the law of reciprocity, or whatever.

The good guys win in the end.

The best tip I have – only two things will keep you from achieving success

  • If you quit trying to be successful and give up on your dream
  • You die before you become successful

The first one you control, and if you quit, you’ll never know how close you were to being successful.

The second one won’t matter because you won’t know you failed.

You need to focus. Sometimes you’re the windshield, sometimes you’re the bug.

Most days, I’m doing what I choose…even though it might feel like hell at that moment. You’ve got to be able to play the long game. It’s not for everybody, but it is for anyone that wants it.

Overnight successes average 10-20 years.

My advice is to know what you want. Aspiring to achieve that. Others shouldn’t have to be your driver. If you have a strong vision of what you want and the why behind it, you will have the motivation and perseverance to overcome challenges. One of my old time partners Slotogate is a perfect example for this, as it is a site for those who love playing diverse games as there are different themes, top providers, the best payment methods like https://slotogate.com/deposits-method/paypal/ and all of this for you to have the most exciting experience while playing!

If you’re reading this, perhaps this message was meant for you — to give you that little bit of encouragement you need.

I’d love to hear your best tip for struggling entrepreneurs on the journey upward to overnight success.

Work-Life Balance

Want to know how lawyers maintain work-life balance and what it’s like to hang around the most successful lawyers on the planet?

Remarkably similar to high-performance individuals in other walks of life.

Work-Life Balance

On the surface, these lawyers are expert litigators who have sophisticated techniques to win against the insurance companies, whether through settlement or going to a jury trial.

But underneath, you see humans who have learned how to systematize their businesses— to be CEOs that don’t file claims, talk to clients, write checks, or go to court unless they have to.

They are stewards of people— since, ultimately, it’s a people game.

Mike Morse did $160 million this year in creating a “fireproof” law firm. And he has applied principles to give him time freedom, so he never misses his kids’ games or things in life we want to savor.

Jesse Itzler sold his private jet company for billions to Warren Buffett and is married to the billionaire founder of Spanx. And he plans his entire year out in advance— blocking out time for adventure, new experiences, and date night.

Put in the big rocks first, or else the pebbles and sand fill up your jar— leaving no room for the big rocks later.

I witnessed tender moments with Ali Awad, his wife, his brother, and his father— a close-knit family that spends time together. And I felt welcomed, like part of the family.

This struck me more than the powerful opening keynote Ali gave on how he scaled his law firm to 8 figures via social media. I admire the CEO Lawyer more for how he treats people than for his ability to convince billionaires to speak on his stage.

No matter what you do, you’re in the people business, so these same principles apply.

I’m also grateful for Mark Lack, who taught our private group at the same time I was on stage, which happened to be during our weekly Office Hours call.

Mark shared his techniques on how to partner with ultra-successful people— and I noticed how Mark and Ali have a huge overlap in their circle of friends.

And that’s not a coincidence, since many of the attendees I met, even though I’ve never met them before— feel like long-time friends because we have so many friends in common.

I wasn’t expecting to do any deals- my focus was teaching the dollar-a-day strategy so well that even the not-so-young adults would be comfortable making one-minute selfie videos and boosting them on TikTok and Facebook.

I gave away all our training for free, as this felt like the right place— so these CEO lawyers could build a Content Factory using our processes and hire VAs for $5 an hour to edit videos.

And doing so yielded some new partnerships, where some ads and analytics support from us (not as a traditional agency) will create massive growth for these firms while advancing our cause to create a million jobs to implement these techniques.

There is always another level up that you haven’t seen if you are willing to humble yourself— and these folks have such an abundance mindset that they openly share and decisively take action.

If you haven’t been to a high-end event like this, you don’t know what you’re missing.

Why Is It Better to Consult an Immigration Lawyer?

For all immigration issues, it is essential to have an experienced and knowledgeable immigration lawyer who knows your rights inside and out. In this article, Mr. Sung-Ho Hwang, a leading Immigration lawyer, talks about the Dos and Don’ts of getting legal status in the US. And why it is always better to get the help of an immigration lawyer for a smooth flow in getting the legal formalities completed.
Here’s an excerpt from a virtual interview with Mr. Sung-Ho Hwang.

Why Hire an Immigration Lawyer?

Many people think they can do the immigration formalities on their own, but it’s such a complex area of the law.
It’s just a huge risk. If you make a mistake, USCIS, a governing body for these applications, has zero-tolerance for any mistake. So once it gets denied, it’s denied. So you may save a little bit of money, but you’re risking not being able to work in the United States. And that’s being penny wise, pound foolish.

So what does an immigration lawyer do?

We generally help:

  • people by obtaining visas, green cards, or citizenship.
  • corporations recruit people internationally and allow them to work in the United States. So there are lots of things.

Immigration law itself has lots of different areas. And I mentioned before there’s Court. So people who are getting deported, people looking for political asylum, refugees coming from, say, Afghanistan. Yes. A slew of immigration attorneys helping these people through the process.

There are many things, but generally, the thread connecting everybody in immigration law is to try to bring somebody who’s not a US citizen into the United States.

Most common mistakes that you see people make in DIY immigration law?

There’s no one specific mistake because there are so many different areas of immigration law, from H1Bs to family-based, like somebody getting married to a US citizen. There are so many different areas that there’s no specific mistake.

The fundamental mistake, is they haven’t hired an immigration attorney.

And I see so many times when they try not to do it on their own and come to me when it’s too late. It’s already been rejected, and I can’t do anything. I can’t help. I see that all the time.

And the biggest mistake is just believing things on the internet.

Everybody thinks it must be true if it’s written and on the internet. So they look at these things and then try it on their own.

And then sometimes, you know, you can get away with it. I know people who have successfully filed applications on their own, but do you want to take that chance.

Is it really worth a few thousand dollars in savings to take that chance that you might not get to live here and get deported?

Is it harder now to work in the United States?

It is. The last administration was very restrictive. The idea was to try to keep people out.

Now, with the new administration, things are slowly starting to swing back to being a bit more Pro-immigrant.

But, the problem is that the United States hasn’t addressed the fundamental issue. They need to have comprehensive immigration reform. And, because the system is just not working.

The Issue with Immigration Politics

The biggest surprise is that we still haven’t come up with comprehensive immigration reforms. So we’ve had this problem for a long, long time.

Since I’ve been practicing the law, and 15 years ago, we were close to having it with George W. Bush. It’s just something that I don’t know why we don’t have the political will to make these changes. That’s the biggest surprise.

With the new administration opening things up, I think it’s going in the right direction though I don’t think it’s going enough in the right direction. But unfortunately, the Senate still has a filibuster. So even though the Democrats control, they can stop any comprehensive immigration bill. And they’ve pretty much said that nothing is going to go through.

What advice do you have for the family that is dealing with immigration law issues

They need to do their research, look at who they feel comfortable with in terms of somebody representing them.

If you’re a first-generation immigrant, you understand what people have to go through. And I wasn’t a citizen until I was 16 years old. And I remember that happening. It’s important. This is a great country, and we really do need to have talented, hard-working people.

And if we have this xenophobia and continue to exclude these people, we will no longer be the best country in the world.

Stopping Legal Immigrants from Coming to the US – Is that Smart?

If you stop people from coming to the United States, you stop the best people from coming to the United States. Because I think immigration is self-selecting. The hardest working people are the ones that leave their homes, travel here, and learn a new language. Those are the people that you really want.

They make America great. And if you’ve got somebody walking 2000 miles to get here, they’re not going to be lazy. You know, they’re going to work hard.

The First Day I Became a US Citizen

I specifically remember getting the passport so that allowed me to travel. Actually, the first thing I did was I went to Korea, which I hadn’t been to since I was four. But it’s really empowering. You realize that you’re part of this nation, and you have lots of opportunities now available to you that somebody who doesn’t have legal status has, and I became an attorney.

Why I Chose Immigration Law

I was born in South Korea. Then, I immigrated to the United States. I went to school here, and I started practicing law here.

The important thing was that I’m a first-generation immigrant. I came to the United States, a great country, and wanted to do something that allowed other people the same opportunities I had.

And that’s why I chose immigration.

Why am I proud to be an American

Because it’s really the greatest country on earth, it really is. So anybody who’s a first-generation immigrant, as long as they work hard, really can be successful.

I remember the very first time that I was able to handle a very tough immigration case. And I was successful at getting this woman her green card. It was like, you know, she actually started crying and hugging. It was like a, a point where it was like, truly changed her life.

Oh, that’s why I do this. That’s why I come to work. That’s why I work

Is an attorney a great orator with high command over English?

It’s just a very small percentage of the law. And even in terms of litigators, the vast majority of litigators don’t show up to Court. Even litigators that do show up to Court, the vast majority of their time, are not in Court but doing paperwork.

The need for command over the English language is a hindrance because the law generally is language. However, whether you’re a litigator or not, you still have to have a good command of English because statutes and regulations are all written in English,  contracts are written in English, and everything in the law revolves around English.

So, I think that’s one of the reasons why first-generation immigrants don’t practice law because of the language barrier. Now you see the second-generation immigrants born here are fluent in English, becoming lawyers.

So it’s great. It’s a positive thing.

My most challenging case in the last 30 years.

I would say that there was one case I was involved with in an immigration court. I think it was the right thing to do to keep him in the country because he was from a very dangerous country in Africa where many people are killed.

There wasn’t anything I could do. The judge ordered him back to that country; that was tough. That was maybe about seven years ago. So recently, that was probably the most challenging case I have had to handle lately.

Is AI Going to Replace Lawyers?

Technology – it’s one of the few areas where you see technology affecting the practice of law, and eventually, you’ll see AI replace many lawyers or augment the legal profession; that’s the future.

I still think that you need lawyers to oversee the process in our lifetimes.

And there are certain things that you can’t do with AI. Like you need somebody to show up in Court. In immigration, we have immigration courts, hearings, and trials. You can’t have some AI show up to an immigration hearing or interview for somebody’s citizenship.

So there are certain things that you can’t replace, but yes, it’s changing.

Young Asian Americans considering a career in law – What things do they have to do? What things should they be thinking about?

When I started the law practice, I was basically the only Asian attorney. And when I started my law practice, I was a litigator. I mainly did trial work. So I would just show up in Court as the only Asian person there. And you have state Marshalls or clerks there asking me if I’m the interpreter. So that’s what I was facing. But I think it’s started to change now. You see that in areas like Connecticut, where Asians are not the primary group.

So it’s a little bit of an uphill battle. I think you have to work harder. And I think Asians have that work ethic to just work harder. So there’s a great opportunity. And now, a lot of my clientele are Asian. They feel more comfortable with somebody who speaks the same language.

There’re lots of opportunities as an Asian.

Sung Ho Immigration lawyer

For more on related topics, see: How I got my US passport replaced in only 75 minutes for $237.72

How I got my US passport replaced in only 75 minutes for $237.72

If you’re reading this, you’ve probably already been to a ton of websites trying to figure out how to get a rush passport. Whether you lost your passport or were just procrastinating, you need a new passport right away.

How I got my US passport replaced in only 75 minutes for $237.72
75 minutes for a new passport. Not bad.

Let me save you some time and money. Do not go to one of those express passport agencies.  They take advantage of folks who don’t know any better—kind of like funeral directors that charge you $10,00 for a coffin that costs $1,500. Yes, there’s something called the Funeral Rule, where by law they cannot markup the price of the coffin more than 700%. Too bad this law doesn’t exist for rush
passport services.

I’m going to tell you what I did to get my passport made while I waited, and then explain how any other method to get an emergency passport is just a scam.

I lost my passport back in February. I’ve been going through airport security the last 4 months with no ID of any kind—boarding pass only.  Been doing that 3-4 times a week and have gotten through every time.  The downside is that I sometimes get the deluxe massage, but usually it’s just fine. But now that I had to fly internationally, I had to have a passport to clear customs. So why do things in advance when you can wait to the absolute last minute to test your skills?

Step 1: Call the National Passport Information Center 

This toll free number is provided by the government. 877-487-2778.  Listen carefully, as you have to find the right option to schedule an appointment at a regional office. “1” is for the East Coast, “2” is for the West Coast, and so forth. Then you have to select the city from within that region. Unless you live in the sticks, you should be able to find your city in that list. I chose Minneapolis, since that’s where I happened to be.

The automated system makes you wade through a list of 30 minute slots for your appointment, from 8 am all the way to late afternoon.  I had a 5 pm flight and I don’t like to get up early, so I chose a 2 pm appointment.  In fact, I called the system again and booked a 2:30 pm slot, too, just to be safe.  The system doesn’t check for duplicate entries. And you can keep pressing “2” to fast forward to the next slot if you don’t want to wait for them to take a whole minute to re-read the time slot and address of the passport office.

Time spent: 10 minutes.

Step 2: Go to Walgreens to get your photo taken.

I hopped in a cab from my hotel and went to the nearest Walgreens. In the cab, I called ahead to ensure there was no line at the photo department. The photo machine was broken, so I went to one 2 miles away, which was still on my way to downtown. Thank you, Google Maps!

They snapped my picture with a digital camera and 10 minutes later I walked out with 2 small photos, of which the passport office needed only one of them.

Time spent: 20 minutes.

Step 3: Go downtown to the passport office.

The cabbie drove me 8 miles into downtown. And on the way, I filled out the 3 page form needed to get a replacement passport—one page on how it was lost and 2 pages for the new passport application. Trying to fill out forms in a moving car is tricky, but the passport folks didn’t seem to care.

Time spent: 15 minutes.

Step 4: My passport office visit.

There was nobody in the place except a couple clerks, so I was able to walk right up and handle
things immediately. The first thing they said was “Are you traveling today?”  And they said it in such a casual way that it sounded like they do this sort of thing all the time.  I was fully expecting to tell them “yes” and then be pounced upon—lectured about how I should have planned in advance and
“too bad” for me. But instead, the clerk said that when there’s a legitimate need for a passport, they can print them right there—and he motioned to the back office where they had some machines.

All I needed to justify the emergency was my flight confirmation, which I didn’t have printed.  But lucky for me, they had some modern computers and printers right there. So I logged into my gmail to print out the flight confirmation. It cost me nothing. Daresay, the internet was fast.  So I spent an extra 5 minutes checking my email, since I couldn’t help but see what else was going on in our company.
This is your tax dollars at work, folks.

When I handed my paperwork to the clerk, I had no driver’s license, social security card, or ID of any sort.  But I did have a copy of my birth certificate, which I had paid some random guy $20 on Craigslist to wait in line in the city where I was born to get this document. In case you’re wondering, anyone can get a copy of YOUR birth certificate—they need only know where you were born. No ID required to get it—just a cashier’s check.

My application was incomplete—I didn’t know offhand the dates of birth of my mother and father.  So the clerk told me to just estimate, which I did. The rest of the forms were simple—name, address, social security number, and a few simple bits of info. That part took only a few minutes.

What was cool about this part of my journey was that the guy who processed my passport answered my questions on the spot. Had I filled out the forms and submitted them FedEx to some bureaucracy in the
sky, who knows if I would have gotten rejected or had an opportunity to correct whatever information might be wrong. If I had used one of these 3rd party services, instead of dealing with Uncle Sam himself, I’d be at the mercy of some person working from their kitchen running their internet-based passport
services business.

If you have actually tried searching on Google for “rush passport services” or a related search, you’ll find a bunch of folks who claim to have special access to the passport folks.  They hint they can somehow jump the line for you and that some reputable organizations use them for passports. But when you actually call up their phone number (and most don’t even have a phone number or don’t answer it), you will often hear kids in the background or other sounds that are questionable. Then when you look for reviews of these businesses, you get horror story after horror story about how they charged someone $550 for an express passport, rejected it because some field on the form wasn’t filled out perfectly, pocketed the money, and were never heard from again.  Don’t let this be you.

The passport folks told me that citizens get ripped off all the time when using these services, often because they don’t realize that if they just went downtown, they could get their passport right there on the spot, plus not pay someone a $300 fee to merely FedEx your forms both ways for you. You could FedEx it yourself, if you’re really too lazy to go downtown—so why pay a middleman? The passport folks said that they don’t promote their services, so that’s why these scammers exist. And it was that statement that prompted me to write this article.

This step included me surfing the internet and chit-chatting with the passport folks in disbelief about how simple this process was.

Time spent: 25 minutes.

Step 5: Payment and success.

I gave the clerk my debit card and it was done in minutes. I opted to get the passbook (what most people know as the passport with many pages in it), as well as the passcard (something that looks like a driver’s license), which was $30 more.  There is a $60 expedite fee (well worth it to have it done right away) and a $25 execution fee. I don’t know what the $40 security surcharge is, but I was more than happy to pay it.  The passport itself was $70, but when you added everything up, it was $237.72. 

Note that if you had used some other agency, you’d still have to pay these same fees, except a few hundred dollars for that agency to make a profit on your ignorance, plus FedEx both ways.

Time spent, including gloating over my minor victory: 5 minutes.

Total elapsed time: 75 minutes.

And from there, I had plenty of time to leisurely take the light rail to the airport and have a sit down lunch before having to board.

My hope is that this article saved you a ton of grief and perhaps some money. The government isn’t very good about sharing the good things it has available to us. So I feel it’s our duty to make sure that anyone else who needs a passport right away is able to do so without needing to get stressed about it or get ripped off.

If this article has helped you or if you’d like to share your experience with others, please do so in the comments below.

And if you’d like a chuckle, check out this post about the time I forgot my laptop, passport, and wallet in a conference room. Seriously.

Marcelo Bermann shares more truth about Aaron Gobidas

Marcelo Bermann shares more truth about Aaron Gobidas

In this episode of the Coach Yu Show, Marcelo Bermann shares his story of how serial scammer Aaron Gobidas backed out of a contract after he’d received the payment.

Marcello has been painting for 51 years. He started out in Boston in 1971, and has been serving the San Diego community since 1992. You can find him at bestsandiegohousepainting.com

Like so many expert tradesmen, Marcelo needed help with his website and SEO. He used a business bartering side, BizX, and stumbled upon Aaron Gobidas and GoBeRewarded. Unfortunately, he was left with an empty wallet and no website.

Aaron Gobidas is a great salesman.

Marcelo’s story:

“He reminds me of some of these people that are on speed and they can read your mind and they tell you everything that you want to hear. The one thing is he insisted that I drive up to Oceanside, which I did not understand.”

“But in any event, I drove up to Oceanside. It’s a long drive. There’s a lot of traffic. He wanted to show off his place. I’m familiar with the area I used to live in Oceanside.”

“And he did a presentation meeting where there are a couple of women there. One of them was constantly on her smartphone. The other one was somewhat present. They really didn’t know much about the subject. He also had another guy there. I guess he wanted to impress me with the staff, you know, that was on their hand and the plans where he had the thing.”

the truth about Aaron Gobidas
The office Aaron Gobidas was so desperate to show off.

“And one of his selling points was that his dad had been, I think, a curtain installer, like on windows and, and that, you know, he knew how being a specialized business with a particular gift that he would know how to present me to the world so that I would get the right kind of clientele and, you know, blah, blah, blah, blah.” 

“He was very convincing and everything. He did like an hour long presentation with maybe even videos and a whiteboard and so on. Basically, he wanted $2,500 to redo my website and he was going to do a super-duper thing. He was going to have some staff that was going to do some video. So he was going to do a shoot as well as, and they were going to come out on site and, you know, and, uh, shoot while I was working.”

“So it was going to be a very comprehensive, well mounted, professional  website.”

Spoiler Alert: It wasn’t.  

There was some confusion over hosting and eventually GoBeRewarded backed out of their contract with Marcelo, keeping the money. Truth is, Marcelo fell for a nicely packaged scam.

Unfortunately, this happens more frequently than you’d expect.

There are a ton of agencies out there who will promise you the moon, but in reality they lack expertise.

So when you see a scammer like Aaron Gobidas try to take your money and try to make all these promises and tell you all these stories. But then you start asking questions and then things kind of start changing, that’s when you know that you have an issue.

So to Marcelo’s point never pay the whole thing up front. Always check out the reviews. You should go Google, Aaron  and see what shows up on the first page for his name. And if he’s good at SEO, then those horrible things about him are not going to show up on his name, right?

My expertise is in SEO. My advice for everyone out there is that SEO is completely measurable.

It can be hard to find someone you trust. But if you start getting a bad feeling about someone or an agency, if they can’t answer your questions clearly, or they seem to be using a lot of jargon, take it as a red flag. Trust your gut.

Check out the entire interview.

And while you’re at it, you can read about what Aaron Gobidas did to my good friend Philippe.